Can you help me find the words?
Panic and fear and being just at a loss for what to even say
I send this note to all of you twice a month and in return, quite a few of you send me nice notes back. It is appreciated.
Today is the day that the calendar says it should go out. So I want to write something. But I am at a loss because the world has become more complicated in the last few days. What I wrote a week ago no longer feels ok to send out now.
What words are you using? Is this a good start?
Feel free to stop reading here if this is all you can process right now.
For those that choose to read on:
What I can share is that it is okay to be scared and overwhelmed to the point of not being able to focus on anything else even though you feel powerless.
Panic and fear are natural human reactions that are absolutely called for at times.
Ironically I just finished reading a book about harnessing our fears. The book is called “A Healthy State of Panic” by Farnoosh Torabi. I opened it intending to skim it and instead found myself totally immersed, reading every word and marking some sections to refer back to when I needed a friendly reminder that I was not alone in my own panic and fear.
The book was originally intended to be largely biographical and while it does eventually include some money advice, the focus really is on Farnoosh’s childhood and growth into adulthood. Farnoosh gives us permission to be afraid. The book gets extremely personal to the point that at times I felt I should not know as much as I was learning about my friend. I was surprised at how candid she gets about scary things that happened to her and her family. Real stuff. I’m not saying the money stuff didn’t matter, but what shook me was about health, her family, and honestly- the pain of middle school and trying to figure out who you are while other people are telling you who they expect you to be.
I will see her next week and give her a big hug and try to hold back tears.
We see successful people and we can’t help but make assumptions about their life being so much easier than ours. Sometimes you think you know a person but then you realize you only know what they have chosen to share. That doesn’t mean they are hiding anything. It just means they don’t have to tell the whole world about their whole world.
Make time for this book. And if you enjoy it please continue to spread the word.
We are all feeling knocked out these days. Let’s pick ourselves up off the floor, put on some more comfortable shoes, and start talking about financial anxiety.
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